Based on the title, you're probably thinking I'm off my rocker! Why wouldn't the makeup artist & stylist want to make more money by servicing more people at a wedding?!
Hear me out...
While making money is the goal (and necessity) of every business, there are some cases where the money just isn't worth it. I can break these examples into two categories: The Beauty Haters & The Old Schoolers.
The Beauty Haters: Hate might be a strong word here, but just go with it. These are the ladies who NEVER EVER wear makeup, or maybe never style their hair (except brushing!). They don't like how makeup feels or how it looks on their skin. Hairspray scares them & they are most comfortable in their own, natural skin.
Now, what's wrong with this? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. But, if you are forcing these people into getting makeup & hair done for your big day, it's a miserable experience for everyone involved. I have had moms, sisters, friends, start crying in my chair because the thought of wearing makeup gave them so much anxiety. Which then leaves me feeling absolutely horrible & now in a very awkward situation.
Please, please don't make these people get a service done that would put them in this type of position. It's not fair to them or the professional. Just let them do their own thing & avoid this stress altogether!
The Old Schoolers: This is typically a mom, grandma or aunt! They have had Linda the hairdresser styling their hair for the past 40 years & NO ONE can do hair like Linda can...We could send in Chris Appleton (celeb stylist for Kim K, Katy Perry, Ariana Grande & more!) and he just can't get that French twist volume set the same way Linda does.
Now again, there is nothing wrong with this; they likes what they like and that's it. BUT, no matter what we do, it isn't going to make them happy.
Same goes for makeup. I might not have the same light blue Mary Kay eyeshadow shade that they've been using for forever, or maybe I don't apply eyeliner the same way they do.
Not only do these scenarios put stress on the professional & client, but it can very well cause the entire schedule of the morning to be thrown off. If we are spending an hour and a half fidgeting with the tendrils on grandmas up-do, or calming down a bridesmaid who had an anxiety attack from having mascara applied, we very well could run late. No one wants that!
If I didn't see this happen at least 15+ times a wedding season, I wouldn't feel the need to write about it. But I am begging you- if you KNOW someone in your family or wedding party fits into one of these categories, just leave them off the services list. It truly will make EVERYONE happier & less stressed.
Hillary Fay, Vermont & SW FL Makeup Artist.